My life isn’t the same anymore. On October 19, 2006, I left work early to go sign on a new house to be built. It was a big moment in my life. I was only a few miles down the road from where I left when I was hit head on by a truck as I came around a curve. We were both going at least 55mph. It was a catastrophic accident. That person died several days later. Among other injuries, I broke my neck resulting in a spinal cord injury, which left me paralyzed from my chest down. I am what you call a quadriplegic. I have some paralysis in my arms too and I also can’t move my fingers which to me is the worst part of my injury.
Life is definitely much harder than I ever imagined and it’s been a trial ever since that day. When the accident happened my kids were babies and I was pretty much still a newlywed. I spent 3 months doing physical rehabilitation at Shepherd Center in Atlanta. I had to learn about my disability and how to live life as a quad. It was a mental mind blow which was worse than the physical aspect of my injury and at times it still is. When we came back to Statesboro it really got harder for me because I wasn’t surrounded by people dealing with the same things as me. I felt alone and also became very angry. I was angry with God and didn’t understand why this happened to me. What did I do to deserve this? I thought God loved me especially because I was his child. How can He allow bad people in the world to continue doing so much evil and then allow something like this to happen to me? I just grew angry and bitter. I took it out on my family and struggled each day.
A couple of years later my wife told me she wanted a divorce and my world really came crashing down then. I knew I did some damage but what was I suppose to do? How was I suppose to handle this? I just didn’t understand. Looking back, I can honestly say it helped me begin to be more independent and driven to exceed in life. I went to college and got a degree and then started my own business. Most importantly, I rededicated my life to God and began to really build a relationship with Him. He is my strength! He gets me through each day.
I never thought I would get married again or let alone date anyone after my divorce because I struggled with getting back out in the world. I saw myself differently and didn’t think I’d be any good to someone. I finally decided to get over myself and start meeting people. I had a few relationships but finally fell in love again when I met Hannah. I never thought I’d fall in love again because I was so damaged inside from everything that happened. She was so loving and kind it blew my mind. She was an answer to my prayers. I didn’t want to just date because I was at the point where I wanted to be settled down. Most of all I wanted a woman of God. My prayers were answered and after several months of dating I proposed to Hannah on New Year’s Eve. We got married on April 28th, 2013. She was diagnosed with narcolepsy in September and it’s been a continuous trial since then. Our lives are certainly unique and mismatched. As if being married to a quad wasn’t enough you had to bring narcolepsy into the mix.
There are many things I can’t do anymore and I depend on Hannah to help me with a lot. A lot of my independence got taken away by my injury. Don’t get me wrong because I do a lot now and focus on what I can do more so than what I can’t do. Life is hard enough but now it’s definitely been a trial with Hannah’s narcolepsy. We just thank God for each day and where He has brought us from. We take it one day at a time and don’t worry about tomorrow because God says he has taken care of it already. We hope to encourage and inspire those who read our blog. Life is what you make it…
“Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own” – Matthew 6:34
-Devyn (The Quad)
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